Although the definition of happiness varies from person to person, however, the one thing common in all the definitions is achieving of something. Therefore, for some happiness is achieving excellence in their professional career for others it is achieving a particular figure in their bank balance. Thus, happiness is a relative term, yet achievement is the core of it.
All our lives we have been told to pursue something and that the pursuit and achievement of that very thing will bring us happiness. Thus, for us happiness is an actual thing which just happens as a result of something and which cannot be fabricated or synthesized. This is where we are Wrong!
No denying the fact that achievement of some kind brings actual happiness, however, happiness can also be synthesized and this synthesis of happiness is what is the solution for all the pursuits of finding the secret of happiness. Thus, if you are able to synthesize happiness, you wont need to take blood pressure medicine or worry about the unforeseen future. If you become good at synthesizing happiness, then you will be happy no matter how difficult the circumstances are and no matter how much adversity you face in life.
The Secret Of Happiness:
By now we have made it clear that we can synthesize happiness it is all a matter of seeing the other side of the picture. These things can turn a little abstract for our scientific minds; therefore, I give you the logical secret of happiness. If you wish to synthesize happiness in the most adverse situations and in the difficult times, then the secret is to limit freedom of choice.
You must be wondering What? Freedom of choice? This freedom of choice is the greatest gift to humanity how can its elimination be associated with happiness let alone synthesizing happiness?
You all are right in your reservation and whatever is coming to your mind I also had to face it, however, after thorough analysis I reached the conclusion that these limitless choices are what make us unhappy and cause us to fret even in the most convenient and luxurious lifestyle. Let me explain it to you with an example.
Before moving on with the example let us have something clear so that we are on the same page. Those who win millions of dollars in lottery and those who face some calamity in life, the intensity in their passion decreases with time. The lottery winner after a few years aren't that happy when they were at the time of winning lottery, and those who have undergone some calamity after a few years aren't as sad as they were when they faced that particular incident. Therefore, if happiness was achievement of something and sadness was loss of something, then these people would have stayed happy or sad all their lives. Thus, the achievement part is not true pertaining to happiness.
Now consider you were an entrepreneur who had two great ideas both of equal worth. You were given the choice to choose any of them with the condition that you can revert to the other one any time. Thus, after due consideration you will chose a particular idea and move forward with it, but during the course as you have the choice of choosing the other one anytime, you will start disliking your present undertaking and will start of thinking the other one. Hence, you will eventually undertake the other one and once you are half way through it, you will realize that your prior choice was much better. Thus, this cycle of choices because of the freedom of choice will go on and on.
Consider another scenario, where you were allowed to choose one idea and go on with its implementation without the freedom of reverting to the other. Now in this case, as you would choose your idea with due consideration, you will keep on thinking good things about your selection and consider your choice the best choice. Thus, you will be more happy and satisfied, primarily because you don’t have any other option to look forward to.
In short, the point which I want to make is that when you have little choices, you try to find the best in what you have; you can call this ‘contentment’. This contentment is the secret to happiness and it will keep you happy regardless of whether you have achieved something or have lost it after trying.
Now it’s Your Turn!
Do you agree with my secret of happiness? What is the secret to happiness according to you? How do you remain happy and what strategies did you deploy to be happy? Share your experiences and thoughts in the comments section.
To your Success,