Someone once told me the definition of hell; on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became.
Here are a few questions that you may need to ask yourself.
- Do you live the way you want to live?
- Are you honestly where you want to be?
- Do you act from your ego or from your heart?
- Are you using your full potential?
- Do you live your dreams?
If you are ready to live your life and set yourself free. The following steps will help guide you there. Put this knowledge to work and actively work to set yourself free.
1) People come in and out of your life
As I grew older and moved out of my parent’s house. I started to realize that my inner circle of friends started to become smaller. One day you’re close with someone, the next day they are no longer in your life. I’ve learned to accept that this is life. I’ve accepted it and moved on.
2) Keep the people you care about close to your heart
Good, genuine people are hard to come by these days. These are the people who stick by your side through your hard times. Those are the same people who go through the good times as well. Those who decide to leave and not walk with you through your bullshit, let them. Protect your emotions. There is no need to dwell on the nonsense.
3) The grass is greener where you water it
You will look at your friends, colleagues and close friends’ achievement with envy. They’ve got those achievements you don’t have, their life looks perfect. Or is it? Everyone has their own challenges no matter how perfect it appears to be. Never assume. Focus on your patch of grass. Water it well, and it will grow longer and greener as days pass. Nothing comes easy, you have to work for your success. Remember, this is a long-term play
4) You can’t please everyone
Never change because you want to please someone. Never. You cannot. Do things that allow you to be you. Go 110% with what you believe in. Go all out. Don’t talk about it, be about it. You do you, and if there are people who hate whatever you’re doing, let them. Don’t change yourself to please them. There will always be something for people to talk about. Focus on you and the people who matter to you. You do this, and your life will be easier.
5) Build meaningful relationships with people who have the same ambitions as you
If you want to be a successful online marketer. Hang out with the people who are making more money than you. Give them value and in return, they will give you value. So many times I see beginners in this space that try to please who inspires them. They are normal people like you. Treat them like one.
6) Build influence with new connections
Get out, get to know people. If you are an introvert and hate interacting with people. Do it anyway. We all need to start somewhere. Do volunteer work, internships, and part-time jobs. Even if it means you’re doing the unpleasant tasks. Know names, connect with them on social media. Put your name out there and make sure you make an impression. Why? Because when you go out there and do the work. People will take notice. It’s easier to get to where you want to go when people already know who you are. So do yourself a favor.
7) No one cares
A bit harsh? You bet! Stop complaining and moaning about how much your life sucks. This may come off as cliche. But no one cares. So if your life sucks that much, do something to change it. Make a conscious decision to change. If you do the same thing over and over, nothing will ever change. When you do go after the change, be ready for the consequences that come with it. At the end of the day, you’re responsible for yourself, and no one else.
8) No one owes you anything
You are responsible for yourself. Your parents don’t owe you anything, your bosses don’t owe you anything, and your peers don’t owe you anything. Do you want something bad enough? You work hard and earn it. Don’t expect anyone to do anything for you. If they do, it’s a privilege, not an entitlement.
9) Physical appearance isn’t everything
It’s how you carry yourself. I’d rather someone be my friend for my personality and knowledge than my looks. Carry yourself with respect, confidence, and kindness. As you grow older, you will realize, your physical appearance doesn’t matter.
10) Your ego and pride is not everything
Your ego and pride aren’t worth shit. Put your ego and pride at the down. Apologize when it’s needed. Friendships and relationships are worth far more than your stupid ego and pride. Even if you hate your boss, you put that ego and pride down and you say good morning when you see him. Because if you don’t say it, what do you think you’ll get out of it? Your useless ego and pride are not worth the grumpy boss’s bad side. Not worth it.
11) Make peace with yourself
This is the only true way to make yourself happy. Don’t look at others for validation. Disappointment will happen very often. Instead, validate yourself. The same goes for happiness. Don’t rely on anyone for happiness. Love yourself. Be confident.
12) Life is never fair. Never.
You work as hard as someone but they get what they want and you don’t? Suck it up. Life isn’t fair, and it will never be. Work hard, and if you work hard enough, you will get to where you want to be. Eventually.
13) Follow your heart
Live by what you believe in. Stick to your values and do not get swayed. Do you believe in second chances? Give that chance. Do you want to be vegan? Do just that. Do you want to be kind to people who least deserve it? Be kind as fuck. Don’t change who you are for someone who can’t accept you for you.
14) View life from a different pair of lens
It’s easy to jump to conclusions or make quick assumptions. There are always two parts to the story. Always, always emphasize rather than sympathize. Put yourself in their shoes and understand why they do what they did. Take a step back and look at the bigger picture that is in front of you. More than often, we see things how we want them to be even though in most cases, it isn’t what our minds made it out to be. Emphasize, it’s a very empowering set of skills.
15) Count your blessings
Always. Always. Always. You’ll never get everything you want in life, but that’s life. Be contented with what you have, and you will be happy. There will always be someone better, richer, more attractive. Never try to compete with this person. You’re always in competition with yourself. Strive for the best version of yourself, not the best of someone else.
It will take some focus and inner work but you can have the power to set yourself free. When you are able to do this, you can achieve better results in your life. It’s not always easy to let things go. It will take time and consistent effort to remove yourself from the burden. Once this happens, you will begin to grow and prosper.
You deserve it.