Humans are social animals, therefore, thinking that we can survive without each other and live life in isolation is perhaps not a practical logic. Hence, in order to be true humans we ought to socialize and interact with other people, however, all the people are not alike, and there are some good and some bad.
Everyone tells you to find good people and join their company, whereas when it comes to people who are toxic and not good for you, no one tells you how to deal with them. Believe it or not, the people which you believe to be toxic can be a crucial component of your life; therefore, instead of avoiding and abandoning them, you need to learn to lead with them. Here are a few ways of doing that.
Don’t Confront Them When In Anger:
Anger ruins even the healthy relationships, let alone the ones with toxic people. When you are in anger then the best way to deal with toxic people is to not confront them. Although it won’t affect their toxicity or the way you think about them, however, it will definitely give you a clear picture to look at and then take any decision accordingly. Therefore, in anger avoid confronting such people else you may harm both them and yourself as well.
Acknowledge Your Emotions:
You can keep on telling yourself that you are strong, you are cool, you are patient and open minded, but the truth is that sometimes even the best of us deviate from being cool and calm. Therefore, if you think you are going through such phase then acknowledge these emotions and on the basis of that try to either refrain from confronting the toxic people or deal them in a proper way and be on your way as soon as possible. Therefore, turning your face away from your emotions might not come in handy if you have negative people around you.
Although this must be asking too much of you, however, when it comes to you dealing with toxic people, if you could empathize a little with them I ensure you that you can enjoy a healthy relationship with them as well and they can do a lot good to you as well. When you think for a little time about the way they feel or think and the way other people treat them which has made them toxic, you will definitely get a new perspective and would definitely think of a better way of treating the toxic people and make them benefit you and you benefit them.
Keep Your Eyes On Intentions:
There is a strong probability of the fact that people who you think toxic won’t have bad intentions for you, rather it’s the way they do or say things that annoys you or that isn’t in your favor. Therefore, another great and healthy way of dealing with toxic people could be to for some time keep the way they behave aside and focus on their intentions. When you focus on their intentions, you will definitely come to know the good they have in their heart for you and how their conduct is not like the good they have in their hearts. Therefore, instead of being blind and judgmental, take a while and think of the intentions they have, I am sure that it will definitely lead you to seeing well in them, thus making your life and relations easier.
Now it’s Your Turn!
Do you have toxic people around you? Have you ever had to deal with them or how do you deal with them? What is your experience so far? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.