One of the most common things that almost every one of us does in his or her life sooner or later is comparing ourselves with others. This intentional or unintentional comparing with others partly because of our elders who always compare us with our friends and partly it is because of us when at different times we start comparing ourselves with others.
The comparison we do is of all sorts. From tangible to intangible, from money to waistline, from cars to the wristwatches, from dresses to shoe collection, from career success to the size of the paycheck; all of these and many more are the factors on the bases of which we compare ourselves with others and make our lives full of suffering and miserable.
Besides the general tension and depression that comparing with others brings to life, there are several other reasons why you should not compare your life with others. Below I’ll be discussing you should not compare your life with others.
You Compare Wrong:
First of all, the biggest mistake with the whole notion of comparing and its process is the fact that most of the time you will be comparing the wrong things. No one has been able to identify the standards upon which one should compare oneself with others. All the money, cars, beauty, followers, homes, clothes and every other thing is relative and depends upon your subjectivity. Therefore, if you don’t have some established standards of comparison, then the comparison that will take place in such a case will always be wrong. Therefore, because of the lack of standards, any comparison made by you will be of the wrong things and eventually it will lead to wrong results.
Best vs. Worst:
Perhaps this is the innate flaw with us humans. During the comparison, we compare our worst with the best of the others. Therefore, one other major reason why you need to avoid comparison is that it will highlight your worst, which will seem even worse when compared with the best of the others. The ultimate result of all this would be greater depression and stress. Ergo, in order to avoid stress and depression, which increases because of the worst and best comparison, you need to avoid comparison at all.
It Never Ends:
I would be a great proponent of the comparing game if it were a onetime thing and it would end once you have done your comparison of whatever you deem fit for comparison. Sadly, the comparing game never ends, now you are comparing your car, then you’ll be comparing your bungalow, and then you’ll be comparing your net worth and so on. So the comparing game never stops and all you will do in your life is keep on comparing, which will lead to a waste of time and energy and you will end up being nowhere.
You Can’t Grade Life:
Another reason why the comparing system does not work or you cannot rely on it as a means of analyzing yourself is that you cannot grade life. There are billions of people in this world, some of them would be richer, smarter, beautiful, handsome, intelligent, stronger and so on more than you, while there will be others who won’t be as good as you are in any respect. Therefore, if you don’t have any set standards than you possibly cannot grade life. Each and every one of us has our own way by following which we become what we are, therefore, grading life is not possible, and hence comparing should also be a part of life.
You Lose Focus:
Another major reason why you should avoid comparing your life with others is the fact that comparing diverts focus. In life, in order to be successful, you need to have focused, however, when you unjustly compare yourself with others, it diverts your focus from your goal and you indulge in the comparing conspiracies, especially envy. Therefore, in order to keep your focus on what you want to achieve, you have to keep away from the comparison game.
It Kills Joy:
Above all the biggest reason why you need to stay away from the comparing game is that it never ends well. The ultimate result and perhaps the only objective of comparing your life with others are to find the ills in you and the goods in others, which in no way is a healthy sign and it eventually kills the joy in your life.
Now it’s Your Turn!
Do you compare yourself with others? What is the nature of comparison? Do you think it is a healthy activity and should be encouraged? How has it harmed or benefited your life? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.