How to Deal With Unsupportive Friends and Family

Without any doubt, we as humans cannot survive alone and require our familial and social relations to help us in sharing the sorrows and celebrating the happiness. It is quite natural that when we feel down and out, we look for a supporting shoulder, and when we feel happy we need someone to dance with and celebrate the joy.

 

Although the relations are important in increasing productivity of a person, however, there come times when relationships, instead of being productive try to hinder in your way and serve as impediments to your growth. The solution is not in abandoning your friends, family and spouses, rather the solution lies in dealing with these unsupportive relations in a better way so that you don’t lose a relation and reduce its non-supportive impact on your goals and ambitions.

 

Today, I will be sharing with you some ways in which you can deal with your unsupportive friends and family members when it comes to your business.

 

How to Deal With Unsupportive Friends and FamilyAvoid Argument:

 

The first things you need to do when dealing with unsupportive relations is avoid argument. There will be times when even the closest of your relationships won’t share your vision, won’t believe in your ambition and will discourage you from following your dream. At this point of time, all your proves and logics will fail, therefore, instead of making the relation bitter by indulging in steamy arguments, the best ploy is to avoid the argument. This way your relations would understand that you are committed to your cause and they are not helping in it, hence, they will refrain from discouraging you any further.

 

Differentiate:

 

The problem with most of us is that we are not able to differentiate, whether it is a good decision from a bad one, a good choice from a bad one, a good path from a bad one or a good relation from a bad one. When we chose something we believe it to be as we believe it, hence do not consider any other opinion other than our own. When it comes to relationships, it is imperative that you differentiate the good ones from the bad ones and know which relations are supportive and which are waiting for ‘I told you so’ moment. In your grudge against the bad ones, do not lose the good ones as they are the ones that support and push you to reach a higher pedestal. Therefore, don’t treat all your relations in a single way, rather avoid the unsupportive ones and try to be more around those who share your vision, are supportive of your vision and encourage you to pursue your dream.

 

Spouse MLM Not SupportiveBefore Anything Try Everything:

 

Relationships are developed over time, therefore, you wouldn’t want to lose a child hood friend just because of the fact that he wants you to continue with your job and not pursue entrepreneurship. Hence, it is imperative that before taking your stand against such friends and relations and being stern about it, you try to explain everything to them first. You need to pour your heart out to them and show them how you won’t be any good at anything else than the thing which you want to do. In my experience, if your relationships are sincere with you they will value it when you explain your heart to them and instead of being unsupportive they will keep shut you out and not support you. Therefore, before making any decision about your relationships, try everything possible to explain to them why you do what you do.

 

Now it’s Your Turn!

 

What kind of friends and family relationships do you have? Are they supportive of what you do? Did you need to convince them in supporting you? If they don’t support you, how do you deal with them? Share your precious experiences in the comments section below.

 

To your Success,


Nate Leung


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18 Responses to “How to Deal With Unsupportive Friends and Family”

  1. Esha

    That’s a nice post Nate! Arguments with friends got the better of me for some time but later I stopped feeling bad if they didn’t get my point, to each his own.

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  2. Erika Mohssen-Beyk

    Very good post ,Nate
    I think a lot of people have to deal with this ,
    I do what I think it is right and I do not argue
    and I am ready to say I am wrong If I am ,
    nothing can happen ,only we learn something .
    But usually If I follow my heart .
    ,it is the right thing to do.

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  3. Emmanuel

    Dealing with unsupportive people is one of the difficult thing to do in life. I hardly tell my friends what I do and doing because I know for sure they are going to give me more than a thousand and one reasons why I am likely to fail.

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  4. Sirena Williams

    Very good article. I think the hugest issue is avoiding argument. We always want people to see how we see things but often times our perception of our goals is something only we can see and understand. Great Read !

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  5. Liz Delaney

    Again, an enjoyable post Nate. I am surrounded by unsupportive friends and family. I am on my own in this online marketing . I left the teaching sector due to health reasons and people think I don’t do anything all day as they can’t see how far I have come. But, I am determined to prove them wrong…..

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  6. Ryan Biddulph

    Nate I moved down this road so many times lol 😉 1 is key. Do not argue. Speak, converse, but if the vibe changes do not engage angry people. Kill them with either silence or love. My loved ones were human, and still are, so it is natural for them to feel a certain way if they believe I am risking something, with my balls to the wall approach 😉

    Thanks dude!

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  7. Michael Levanduski

    Great post, very helpful. It can be frustrating sometimes when friends or family aren’t as supportive as you want them to be. That’s just one of the challenges we face though!

    Michael

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  8. Yippee Daniel

    I have a lot of them, it’s sucks at times but i try as much as possible to ignore them. With this tips i can deal with them in a better and best way.

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  9. Mary Austin

    Good post, Nate. I am close to my family, and we do a lot of fun things together but I don’t involve them in my business. Therefore none of them has ever criticized me for it. I have noticed that when a family member has no interest in joining someone in a home-based business, it usually is out of fear of failure more than anything. It is often viewed as a lose/lose situation. They think it will be too embarrassing if they can’t do as well as you do, and too embarrasing if they do great and leave you in the dust!

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  10. Christian

    Honestly, I could give a keynote address on this subject. Since we made the decision to move to Florida, along with some other decisions, I’ve been essentially exiled. The only time I hear from 99% of my family is when they feel the need to criticize me.

    At first it was extraordinarily painful, but now I realize that a) that’s who they are, b) they’re doing what they can with what they got, c) their negative emotions are about them and not me.

    As for me, I still send birthday cards, christmas cards, congratulate them on their good news, etc., even if they don’t reciprocate.

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  11. Francene Stanley

    I love your advice, Nate. You’re so right. It’s no use making enemies of your friends or family. However, sometimes they take a stand against you and refuse to discuss it. My daughter lives in Australia and I live in England. I don’t understand why she isn’t supportive to me, and there’s no way to bridge the gap. We maintain a distant relationship, although I wish it otherwise.

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  12. Krystle

    This is just what I needed. It’s hard when you have an unsupportive supportive spouse and you are trying to make your business work. There will be fights and differences, but the day that your business takes off will clear and silence the room. I am working on getting towards that day. Thanks for this post.

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  13. Nayna Kanabar (@citrusspiceuk)

    Some times you will have to agree to disagree in these sort of situations.Its not worth getting into loggerheads over it.If your family and friends are true they will respect your decision.

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  14. Merle

    Excellent advice Nate and yes my children all thought I was doing the wrong thing but have now proved them wrong !!

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  15. Carolyn Coleman-Grady

    Thank you Nate this is an important subject you have provided great tools to help us through the challenges of those who don’t see the vision. We may need to be supportive of them too.

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  16. shamsudeen

    Nate,
    This is one of those post that really cut deep into one’s heart. I have been through this situation and honestly, I managed to deal with these people in different way.
    First, you have to believe in yourself and in what you’re doing. If you dont, no one will believe in you. Especially, if you have nothing to show for your efforts at the moment.
    And again, you have to be stubborn enough not to give up until you achieve your goals cause these people will never stop nagging at you.
    And one more thing, without these people in our life’s. we can’t find the push we need to gear up.
    I have tweet and +1 this post. Thanks for sharing.

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  17. Frank Joseph

    I have also come across families and friends that are totally unsupportive and there is only one way to avoid them. and it is to AVOID THEM!
    They can kill your dreams before you say ‘jack robinson’

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