Effective communication is important in just about every type of relationship, whether it is with a boss or coworker or your spouse. Many of the problems that arise in relationships could be avoided if the people involved were better communicators. Often times a simple discussion can go a long way towards solving problems that might otherwise become overblown. Here are three things that you can do that will help you become a more effective communicator in your business and in life:
1. Be aware of your emotions
Many communication problems stem from the fact that the people involved are too emotional. In fact, most of our communication actually stems from non-verbal gestures and the ways we say things. Emotions that are uncontrolled can quickly end communication, which is why learning to understand and control your emotions is one of the first stages of becoming an effective communicator.
One way to keep your emotions in check is by being able to recognize the circumstances that might cause you to get emotional. By recognizing your emotional triggers you can avoid the situations that cause you to get upset. If you do find yourself getting too emotional during a discussion then you should step away and continue only after your emotions are under control.
2. Pay attention to circumstances and context
There are times when communication problems arise because one or more of the people involved are unaware of the context and circumstances. If you have problems communicating with certain types of people or in certain settings, then you need to evaluate why this is happening and try to correct it. You need to show empathy for the situation and make sure you are not saying anything inappropriate or insensitive. This is even true in business, where a few misguided words could lead to a misunderstanding. Be aware of your setting and behave accordingly.
3. Learn to listen and reflect
Many communication problems come because the people involved are not listening to what the other has to say. This is particularly true if you and the person have differing opinions on a topic. Effective communication requires listening and then thinking about what you have heard. Instead of just waiting for the other person to stop talking so that you can get your chance to speak, you should be listening to what they have to say. This will not only help your communication skills, but will make you a more sympathetic and understanding person. Whether you are talking to a business associate or your spouse you need to listen and reflect in order to truly understand their point of view. Only after you have gained this understanding will true communication be possible.
These are just a few tips for how to become a more effective communicator. Successful communication is a major part of both your business and personal life, which is why you need to take the steps necessary to overcome some of your difficulties with communication. You will quickly find that your business and personal relationships are better with effective communication.
Now it's your turn! What are some the things that you do to effectively communicate people in your business, job or relationships? I look forward to reading them!
To your Success,