Personal Development: 3 ways to Become an Effective Communicator

Effective communication is important in just about every type of relationship, whether it is with a boss or coworker or your spouse. Many of the problems that arise in relationships could be avoided if the people involved were better communicators. Often times a simple discussion can go a long way towards solving problems that might otherwise become overblown. Here are three things that you can do that will help you become a more effective communicator in your business and in life:

 

EmotionalImage1. Be aware of your emotions

 

Many communication problems stem from the fact that the people involved are too emotional. In fact, most of our communication actually stems from non-verbal gestures and the ways we say things. Emotions that are uncontrolled can quickly end communication, which is why learning to understand and control your emotions is one of the first stages of becoming an effective communicator.

 

One way to keep your emotions in check is by being able to recognize the circumstances that might cause you to get emotional. By recognizing your emotional triggers you can avoid the situations that cause you to get upset. If you do find yourself getting too emotional during a discussion then you should step away and continue only after your emotions are under control.

 

2. Pay attention to circumstances and context

 

There are times when communication problems arise because one or more of the people involved are unaware of the context and circumstances. If you have problems communicating with certain types of people or in certain settings, then you need to evaluate why this is happening and try to correct it. You need to show empathy for the situation and make sure you are not saying anything inappropriate or insensitive. This is even true in business, where a few misguided words could lead to a misunderstanding. Be aware of your setting and behave accordingly.

 

listen3. Learn to listen and reflect

 

Many communication problems come because the people involved are not listening to what the other has to say. This is particularly true if you and the person have differing opinions on a topic. Effective communication requires listening and then thinking about what you have heard. Instead of just waiting for the other person to stop talking so that you can get your chance to speak, you should be listening to what they have to say. This will not only help your communication skills, but will make you a more sympathetic and understanding person. Whether you are talking to a business associate or your spouse you need to listen and reflect in order to truly understand their point of view. Only after you have gained this understanding will true communication be possible.

 

These are just a few tips for how to become a more effective communicator. Successful communication is a major part of both your business and personal life, which is why you need to take the steps necessary to overcome some of your difficulties with communication. You will quickly find that your business and personal relationships are better with effective communication.

 

Now it’s your turn! ย What are some the things that you do to effectively communicate people in your business, job or relationships? I look forward to reading them!

 

 

To your Success,


Nate Leung


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18 Responses to “Personal Development: 3 ways to Become an Effective Communicator”

  1. Ryan Elliot

    Hello Nate,

    Having been in Network Marketing for 3 years now, I see the importance of becoming an effective communicator. I do believe that you have to be good at communication if you want your team to grow. Great work here, Nate!

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  2. Eric Smith

    Communication I would say is one of (if not) the most important skill that you need to have when you are building a business. Without it you have no business. Great article and will be back to check up on you. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Adrienne

    Well said Nate and one of the most important topics I believe there is. Everyone needs to learn how to communicate in both your business and personal lives.

    I have prided myself in this area mainly because I truly care about the other person and their needs. I really listen to what they have to say and remember that we’re all different.

    We also have to remember that it’s not about us so getting too emotional cannot be a good thing at times.

    Very well said and laid out so well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this and you get an A+ my friend.

    ~Adrienne

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hey Adrienne!

    Yes, and your results show! Communication is often overlooked. People do not treat communication in the same light as other skill sets. Thank you for the kind words and appreciate the comments!

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  4. Debasmita

    Hey Nate…
    Firstly thumps-up to you for writing on an excellent topic, ways to become an effective communicator…
    In the highly interactive world today effective communication if most wanted element for success as stated by Arleen…
    I totally agree with all the tree points you have discussed…they are the most important to be an effective communicator!!!
    Thanks a lot for sharing…its helpful for all people striving for personal development!!!

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hi Debasmita,

    Welcome to my site! It’s always nice to see a new visitor. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Personal Development applies to all areas in life, not just in business. You can be in business and apply personal development to enhance your life.

    Thank you for stopping by and please come back soon!

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  5. Arleen

    The importance of effective communication cannot be overstated. You need to learn how to communicate across multiple channels, captivate your audience. Your three points are well taken, but I would also add. Know what you are talking about, Listen more than you speak, and understand what the other person is saying so that you are able to give them good feedback. Not only listen to what they are saying but also listen to the nonverbal Communion the other person exhibits.

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hi Arleen,

    Absolutely, it cannot be overstated. I agree with you on there. Listen more versus being the one with the gift of gab.

    Thank you for the comments!

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  6. Angela McCall

    Hi Nate,

    I couldn’t agree with you more. Effective communication should exist both personal and business. In fact, if you can’t communicate well in your personal life, I don’t think you’ll be able to communicate well in business either. Home is a good practice and where your first training should be. Just like with children, their first training is at home before they can proceed later to public school.

    Hearing is different from listening. Many times we hear but NOT really listening. We need to listen more. We have one mouth to talk and two ears to listen to. That’s prolly why they emphasize on active listening more than talking. Anyway….have a great evening…

    Looking forward to reading more of your posts.

    Angela

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hi Angela,

    Thank you for stopping by my site. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I completely agree with you on, if you can’t communicate in your personal life, it will not translate well into business. Communication applies to all areas in life.

    Practicing at home is always the best way to get better at something before you apply it in the real world. Especially in my profession, I’ll have people on my team who has never picked up the phone and never tried to prospect. I’ll always say, “Practice on your friends, kids or even your dog”. People that are in your circle of influence are ideal to practice on.

    Yes, hearing and listening are two different things. The way I like putting it, “Be interested in the person you’re talking to, not interesting to the person you’re talking to”. We have two ears, we should take advantage of the gift that God has given us. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Thank you so much for stopping by, and hope to see you again soon!

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  7. Sue Price

    Hi Nate

    Great advice!

    Yes when emotions are running high things can get out of hand. Blair Singer who is a speaker and friend of Robert Kiyosaki always says that in a negotiation that the higher the emotion the lower the intelligence.

    I think listening is key. There is nothing worse than talking to someone who you know is not listening. It is such an important skill in relationships with anyone and is critical to success in building a business.

    Great advice Nate.

    Sue

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hey Sue!

    Yes, I’m very familiar with Blair Singer and it’s very true!

    I agree that there is nothing worse than people who are not listening. I can tell almost instantaneously if the other person is listening or not. In so many ways, if you’re not a good listener, you’re really hurting yourself.

    As always, thanks for the feedback!

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  8. Andrea

    Great post Nate. Communication is always better when you don’t let your emotions run wild.

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Exactly. Well said Andrea! Thanks for the comments!

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  9. Sherman Smith

    Hey Nate,

    I have to say that all of these points stuck out to me. A lot of people have a misconception of what good communication is and this post here really defines it.

    The one thing that people like about my communication skills is that I remember things about them, even small unimportant thing, that really catch them by surprise. I may not remember their names but the little details I remember intrigues them. It really shows that you’re genuinely interested in them as a person and makes you a more likeable person.

    Great tips on communication Nate!

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hey Sherman,

    Most people are interesting, instead of being interested. Listen does take some practice and it’s a skill set that any entrepreneur needs to master. I agree with you, if you are one that listens, you will be more of a likable person.

    Thanks for the feedback!

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  10. Ryan Biddulph

    My Fi-ance lol and I have a solid relationship because we generally listen to each other and reflect. When I refuse to listen I go into the doghouse hahaha…..but most times I do tune in, listen, think and respond. Kelli likes being heard, as does every human on the face of the earth.

    Now listening takes practice because we like to be heard, but are not big fans of listening generally. Practice. You can tune in and listen and respond, building strong communications between you, your loved ones, prospects, anybody, really.

    Thanks for sharing Nate, super tips!

    Ryan

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    Nate Leung Reply:

    Hey Ryan!

    You’re right, listening does take practice. Matter of fact, it’s a skill set that many of us need to improve on.

    Learning how to listen is the secret weapon in terms of how to close more business. It’s a great skill to master!

    Thanks for the comments Ryan!

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