3 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Trying and Start Doing

One of the major character attributes we have been taught in our childhood is that we need to develop an attitude where we try, try, try again. Thus, all our lives, whenever we face any difficult, whenever we want to achieve some objective, whenever we want to change things, all come up with and give is a try. Don’t get me wrong, but trying does not help.

 

There are innate flaws with the idea of trying. The concept, which we need to propagate and inculcate in ourselves as well as in our generations to come, is the concept of Doing. We need to develop a ‘do’ attitude instead of a ‘try’ attitude. In the following lines, I’ll discuss with you the 3 major reasons why you need to stop trying and focus your time and energy on doing.

 

3 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Trying and Start DoingHesitancy vs. Commitment:

 

One of the major reasons why you need to stop trying and start doing is the fact that trying brings hesitancy while doing brings commitment. To put it simply, would you count on someone who says that he or she will try to make it to your party or someone who says that he or she will come to your party? Another example could be that as a business owner would you prefer a service provider who says that they try their best or the ones who say that they do their best? I am sure that in both the cases people prefer the ones with the attitude in latter options. Therefore, if you wish to clear out hesitancy in your life and make yourself committed to a cause or whatever you like, then you need to stop trying and just jump in and start doing it.

 

Failure Factor vs. End Goal:

 

Let me give you the bitter pill; all of us who fail in doing something or in achieving some objective come up with a single optimistic attitude which entails ‘all I could do was try’. The point, which I want to make, is that the trying attitude always carries the element of failure in it where you try with a possibility of failure. On the other hand, when you do something, then all you envision is the end goal and you don’t have any undivided attention towards the possibility of fear. Therefore, those who wish to do something they go on and do it and don’t settle for anything less, whereas those who are not strong in their ambition, try. Ergo, understand the difference and develop the right attitude in yourself.

 

3 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Trying and Start Doing2Passivity vs. Action:

 

Another great reason for you to quit the trying attitude and adopting the doing attitude is the fact that trying bring passivity, while doing commends action. Lets take a simple example where you have to start gym to get fit. I guess I don’t need to stress the obvious fact that most of us try going to gym every day and try doing the exercises, as a result of this trying, few of us don’t even start gym, while the rest of us go for a few days and then quit. On the other hand, there is another group of people who go to gym every day and who simple do what they do without any element of not doing it or quitting it. Therefore, with trying there is an element of passivity which stops people from moving forward and pursuing what they want to pursue. On the other hand, with doing there comes action, and when there is action, there is no need for anything else left.

 

Now it’s Your Turn!

Do you try or do you do? What living strategy have you been following all your life? How did trying or doing work out for you? What are the perks or demerits of any of them according to you? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

 

To your Success,


Nate Leung


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32 Responses to “3 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Trying and Start Doing”

  1. Cynthia Dixon

    Nate,

    I have to say you’re right. As children we’re taught to try instead of do. Of course the end result is thought to be completion and success in whatever it is we’re trying to do.

    But I’ve never thought of how the mindset of “trying” sets you up to expect failure, but not only that, to accept failure.

    I will certainly have to readjust my own thinking and be more positive in how I go about the things I intend to accomplish.

    Thanks for such a thought provoking post!

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  2. Larry Frank

    Hi Nate,
    Great write up you’ve got here, I was suprised when you mentioned that of gyming, I started gyming with a friend sometime ago, after gyming for some time I stoped, but this my friend constantly did go for it, and now he’s used to it, I’ve just found out that I tried and he did.
    This article has really spured me to start doing and stop trying.

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  3. Larry Frank

    Hi Nate,
    Great write up you’ve got here, I was suprised when you mentioned that of gyming, I started gyming with a friend sometime ago, after gyming for some time I stoped, but this my friend constantly did go for it, and now he’s used to it, I’ve just found out that I tried and he did.
    This article has really spured me to start doing and stop trying.

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  4. Lawrence Bergfeld

    Everybody knows that there is no such thing as TRY. The only thing is that if we are doing what we said we will do or we aren’t. If we are not then lets NOT mention it. If we are then lets grab da bulls by da horn and lets accomplish our goals, one goal at a time!!

    Lawrence Bergfeld

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  5. Sophie Bowns

    As always your posts highlight lots of great points! We need to get up and “DO”

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  6. Lesly Federici

    What an important post! When you “try” something it’s an either or situation. For example – try to pick up a pencil. You either pick it up or you don’t. There’s no commitment in the action. But “doing” something commits you to the action. It’s best to just delete the word “try” from your vocabulary. You’ll get more done …

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  7. marilyn cada

    thanks for sharing this nate. this made me think that having a husband with a credit card is a blessing for me because during the time that i have no credit card, i am always hesitant to purchase services for my blog, including hosting. this is why my first blog is not hosted.
    sometimes, people are hesitant because they do not have the right resources at hand including a credit card for online purchases needed for the business

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  8. theresa

    I think in the end, it’s all about attitude and how you push yourself in doing things. I am teaching and as an observation, the students will just choose what they are passionate in doing or sometimes just tend to be lazy.

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  9. Ashish

    Hello Nate,
    You just made my day, This post is very inspiring. Thanks for sharing this with us.
    Regards
    Ashish(Webcipher)

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  10. Mike Gardner - The Time Doctor

    Great article, I tend to find that most people who say they will try something usually will not, either because they have no intention of doing the task or that they have already made up their mind that the task will be to difficult.

    When I hear someone say I’ll try, I reply, “what do I need to do to turn that “I’ll try” into an “I will” it gets people thinking differently

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  11. Erika Mohssen-Beyk

    A good subject ,Nate
    I think yes, a trying attitude ,usually ends in not bringing things to the end ,when it get uncomfortable we stop ,With a do attitude we do even if we see one way is not working we will find another one.
    Better not to start something important with a try attitude.
    Thank you

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  12. Brian

    As you mentioned. There is a huge difference between someone who says they’ll ‘try their best’ and someone who says they’ll ‘do their best’.

    Thanks for sharing.

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  13. Aaron N

    Great reminder to commit to your goals. I’ve often found that failure in my own goals is not the result of inability but inattention

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  14. Mary Austin

    Great words, Nate, and I will offer a different perspective.

    For me, “try” is not a dirty word. It is a statement of intention tempered by the reality that circumstances constantly change. I will try to be at your party; it is my intention to be there and I have written it on my calendar. If you see the use of the word, try, as weak and a cop out, that is simply a perspective that I don’t share.
    I realize I am in the minority here. Even before Yoda uttered those immortal words about “there is no try, there is only do,” many people were restating something they heard and accepted without thinking about it.

    In actuality, I rarely use the word, try, simply because I see myself directed more by intentions that are enhanced with awareness. LOL, if “try” isn’t good enough, then please don’t ask me to bring the beer.

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  15. Richa Singh

    I believe I need to practice this more. I am 100 percent guilty of always only trying and no doing Nate 🙁

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  16. Nick

    You don’t mince your words! I will put this in to practice.

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  17. Cindy Eidahl

    Great! I use to say “try” all the time but I quit saying it and now I say I will do it! Thank you for sharing!

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  18. Jeanne Melanson

    Trying is the easy way out. It gives you permission to fail before you even start. But if you decide to do, then you have a more positive, winning attitude. Failure is not an option. It’s all in the mindset, that’s for sure. Words and thoughts and your attitude is everything. Thanks, Nate. Awesome post.

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  19. Yippeedaniel

    Hi Nate.

    I want to thank you very much for this insightful post.I just know what to say right now. Just weighing myself like which side i belong. trying or doing? maybe i nee to do a search.

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  20. Christian

    “Try” is one of those words I’ve eliminated from my vocabulary. IMO, “try” is the first step to failure. Like Yoda said “Do or do not…there is no try!”.

    I find swapping “do” or “will” for “try” gets me and my clients more motivated about doing what they want to do and creates momentum in their lives.

    Great stuff… dude, you rock!

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  21. Merle

    Great post Nate and I am a do’er and don’t give up until I achieve what I want. Thanks for sharing.

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  22. Coach Donna L. Ward

    Love it! And, it is so very true…get out of the ‘try’ mindset and turn focused intention into action. Great post.

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  23. Joan Harrington

    Love this post Nate!!!! Awesome value and fantastic tips on how to start doing, taking action is key 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

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  24. Carrie Ann Tripp (@CarrieAnnTripp)

    I posted a link that starts with the number 3 today too, but mine focuses on questions not answers!

    However, your post is ironic. I had a text earlier from someone ‘wishing’ something. I responded with stop wishing-start dreaming and making plans to bring those dreams to reality.

    I suppose my personal attitude depends on whether I believe the end goal is actually attainable or not. I’ll TRY anything, I DO things I’m sure of.

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  25. Shari

    I LOVE THIS Nate – I talk about this often as well, even with my kids! It’s amazing what a difference it makes when you take the word try out of your vocabulary in this context.

    Our brains remember the active word… Here’s another fun little hint. . .replace the phrase “don’t forget” with “remember”. . . . How many times have you said to yourself or someone else – don’t forget and then it’s forgotten. . .when you say remember that’s what your brain picks up! (I’ll be doing a blog on this in the near future)

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  26. Gena Livings

    Hello Nate!
    As always, you made some really great points here!
    When we say that we are “doing” something, it sets us up to succeed right out of the gate. In the end, it’s about being fearless! It’s about running headlong into the fire, rather than “thinking” about it.
    Thank You Nate!
    Healthy blessings,
    Gena

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  27. frank joseph

    That is one of the problem a lot of people encounter, they will wish to do something and we will never bring themselves to doing it.

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  28. Lisa

    Nate, I prefer to do even though I make mistakes along the way. Especially as I get older – I don’t want to have any regrets so I find it better to do than sit back and just think about it. Nike got it right with their slogan “Just Do It”.

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  29. David Haines

    Nate, I love the line, “Trying brings hesitancy, while doing brings commitment” That’s brilliant!

    I’ve always lumped trying into the same category as hoping. They both give you a way out. If it doesn’t work, you can say at least you tried or oh well, you hoped it would work out. Somehow that suggests that it’s ok if it doesn’t.

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  30. Sharyn

    I did a similar post about Doing and NOT Trying.
    Thanks for the validation!

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  31. Priya

    Love your articles..they are useful, clearly written and crisp..

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  32. Ryan Biddulph

    Nate,

    Dream and do. Without doing your dreams can’t come true. I push it farther each day, testing my limits from a high energy, happy place. The doers create this awesome world that we live in.

    Stop trying start doing. Power message here!

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